Are You Active or Inactive? Inactive, and proud of it
If Inactive, Date You Left MK:
Amount of Initial Inventory You Purchased:
How were you recruited? Tell us all the details.
My Pink Nightmare:
I was recruited by an acquaintance. She talked me into going to a meeting, which is where this horror show began. I was in a bad place in my life. My mother, whom I was very close to, had passed away suddenly. I was having a very difficult time accepting that she was gone, and trying to figure out how to build a life without her. I had also gained some weight, and my self-esteem was low. I figured what was the harm in trying Mary Kay, so I went to a meeting, signed on and received the infamous started kit a few days later.
Not long after that, came the phone call from my director, who informed me (in our first conversation) that I needed to buy the $3600 inventory package for my “new business”. Though I was a bit suspicious of this whole “business”, I was intrigued by the idea that Mary Kay might be just what I needed to rebuild my life. I told my director that I would get back to her after I spoke to my husband. She told me not to wait long, as we should begin this process as soon as possible. My husband had a very different opinion. He was appalled by the amount of money I was being asked to spend. He felt that nothing added up, and told me not to even think about using our credit cards or joint account to purchase these products. But did I listen? Not really. I borrowed money from a retirement account my mother had left me. I was determined to get my “business” started.
I ended up ordering the $2400 inventory package, and was so excited for my products to come in. My director couldn’t praise me enough (though I knew she disappointed that I bought a smaller package than she suggested). She laid it on thick. “You will be able to quit your full time job one day”, “Your husband needs to be more supportive of your dreams”, “Your friends will love the product”, “Do not listen to anyone’s negativity”. Yeah right. Her words were nothing but lies. When 6 Mary Kay packages arrived on my doorstep. I hauled them into the basement fast, as I wanted to hide them from my husband. As soon as I opened the first box of make-up, I wanted to cry. What the hell had I done?! I had zero customers. Barely anyone knew I was selling Mary Kay. I had spent my mother’s hard earned money on make-up. And I had done so behind my husband’s back.
I attempted to tell a few people about Mary Kay, and they looked at me like I was the most pathetic loser in the world. My husband eventually discovered the boxes and was less than amused. He couldn’t believe I had gone ahead and ordered all this product. My only saving grace was that I had used my own money, and I explained to him that I could send everything back. He was hurt and angry. We argued several times about Mary Kay. He was very disappointed in me and I lost his trust. I knew I had made a HUGE mistake. I finally realized that I no longer had any desire to sell Mary Kay. In fact, I was ashamed of it. My recruiter kept pressuring me about having a debut party, to announce my business. “Invite everyone you know”, she told me. I had still barely even told anyone about Mary Kay, and I had no intention of doing so. My sister found out from my husband, as he told her he was very concerned that I was going to become brainwashed. My sister and my husband intervened and told me to just get out of it. No one blamed me. They just wanted me to get my money back. I was so embarrassed. My sister even offered to help me sell off what I bought, but I didn’t want anyone else to know about Mary Kay. I didn’t want to put my friends or other family members in a situation, where they would be pressured to buy a starter kit the way that I was.
For the next year, I simply avoided Mary Kay all together. I avoided my recruiter and director’s phone calls and e-mails. My family members would ask me what was going on with the inventory. My husband kept asking me when it was going back. I would change the subject every time someone would mention it. Looking at the inventory every time I walked by it made me want to vomit. I felt like a complete failure. As more time went by, I did some thinking. I finally told my recruiter I was no longer interested in Mary Kay. She and my director were not happy, but I didn’t care. Most recently, I found out that a good friend of mine (who is also a friend of my sister’s) has now joined Mary Kay. My sister and I started talking, and I finally opened up about all my bad experiences. She understood better than I thought she would have. She even told me she was once pressured to buy some products from them that she didn’t want. Then we found “pink lighthouse” and were shocked at how many other Mary Kay victims there are. I am so relieved that I am not alone. I am so happy to be away from Kary Kay.
My husband has forgiven me for my mistake, and my family understands. I am now in a very good place, with confidence and happiness back in my life. I am satisfied with my full time job, and will never again look to any type of weird business like Mary Kay. Unfortunately, I lost all the money I spent on my inventory. I couldn’t deal with sending it back, so I am simply forgiving myself for the mistake and accepting the loss. I gave much of the leftover product to my sister and will give the rest as gifts. I am very concerned, however, about my friend, who has recently ordered her starter kit and $3600 worth of inventory after attending only one meeting. I have opted not to get involved, as I know the fellow Mary Kay cult members will tell her I am negative and jealous. I am not willing to lose a friend over Mary Kay’s mediocre cosmetics and brainwashing tactics. I only hope and pray that she will realize that Mary Kay is a huge farce, before she becomes indebted to them.
Do you have a memorable experience from your time in Mary Kay? If so, please tell us about it.
I certainly do. My so-called Mary Kay sister and I did a party together. I am still trying to figure out how she ended up with $500 in sales in her pocket, and I ended up with $20 in my pocket. She gave me this whole story about how we would work together and split the sales. More lies. I worked my butt off that day, setting up, and talking to people about the products. Every time I would start with a customer, she would manage to take over. She stole all the sales.
Interesting, I thought Mary Kay girls stuck together. I was too polite to say anything. I figured she must just be better at selling than I am. I blames myself for not being confident enough. Only recently did I realize that this woman is nothing but a greedy liar, who only cares about herself. I now know I did nothing wrong, except trust her.
What are you doing now?
I am working full time as a teacher, appreciating how rewarding my career is. I am happily married and I enjoy spending time with my family and friends.
Though this whole expereince was terrible, I am not sorry for the lessons I have learned:
Appreciate your consistent and reliable paycheck.
If it sounds too good to be true, it is.
Honesty is the best policy.
“No” is a perfectly acceptable answer.
If you make a mistake, own up to it and learn from it.
You don’t need a group of brainwashed creeps, who worship a make-up woman, to tell you that you are special.
Feel free to include any additional comments here:
Mary Kay is a cult. They are liars and schemers. All the directors care about is getting the peons under them to buy inventory. Most people who buy the inventory can’t afford it. Their theory “faith first, family second, career third” is a complete joke. Though it appears some people do make money with this company, they are doing so in a way that aught to be deemed illegal. I am going to do everything I can to find a loophole in this company’s policies. I will do eveything I can to help keep other from becoming victims of this con.